People who have survived suicide give many reasons for why they are still alive today. Among those reasons there runs a common thread: they realized that their life had a purpose and that they had a place in the big picture.
If you are feeling uncertain about how you fit in, consider some of these questions:
Who am I?
Why am I here?
What do I want to do with my life?
Discover the connection between purpose and meaning
Purpose tells us who we are, where we came from and where we're going. We shape our lives around our sense of purpose. It gives us energy and direction. What, or who, you want to be can provide clues to your purpose. What is that unique something inside of you that you wish to develop and pursue? You might want to ask yourself: What are my talents and interests? What moves me? What do I dream about? Who are the people I most admire? What would my ideal life/school/city/country/world look like?
Purpose gives our lives meaning.
As we discover how we might make our own special contribution, we get a better sense of the big picture. We see the connection between our work and the work of others in the world. We begin to experience and participate in the ever-evolving relationship between our lives and the lives of all people from all cultures on our planet.
We humans have some very basic needs:
- Self: A sense of growth, wholeness and well being
- Community: A sense of belonging, intimacy and connection
- Meaning: A sense that our lives are worthwhile and that we are making a contribution
What, you don't have all the answers yet? Don't worry! Some people resolve these “life purpose” questions early on, while others of us need more time and don’t achieve certainty until later in life. There is no “normal” time when we’re supposed to have it all figured out and the fact is that there may never be such a thing as absolute certainty. Just remember to keep asking questions, stay hopeful and never ever give up.
“All who wander are not lost.” – JRR Tolkien